“I’ve never doubted us, I’ve never doubted Andrew, but I’m a perfectionist and I want to be successful, so I always doubt myself,” she explained. “And I want to be the best at what I do, and my brain and my doubts go, ‘Am I cut out for this job? Am I the best mom for my kids? Am I the best wife for my husband?'”
All the answers were a resounding “yes,” emphasized her partner of more than 10 years. But, Andrew said, “At some point I realized that I was literally completely out of my depth. I needed a professional perspective on this.”
Years after that fight, they still receive support from experts. Even though she enjoyed the sessions she attended before taking her vows in April 2016, “we started learning that we tended to only go to counseling and therapy when our symptoms got severe, and now we’re starting to set goals to be proactive about counseling and therapy for maintenance.”
When you talk about their struggles, “you bring it out in a way that allows you to be that third-person audience,” Andrew explained. “Then it becomes less personal.”
That’s why they consider regular therapy as one of the strategies for marital harmony. Relive their journey to the top of the proverbial podium.
